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What Makes Someone a Leader?

What does it take to be a leader? Today I’m joined by a special guest, Kadi Cole, to talk about the subject of leadership.


What does it mean to be a great leader?

To help me answer this question, I’m joined by a special guest: Kadi Cole. Kadi wrote an amazing book called “Sticky Note Leadership” that deals with this subject exactly.

According to Kadi, all of us are leaders in our own way. The John Maxwell quote “Leadership is influence” really applies here.
If you have influence over the team you work with, the business you run, your kids, or anything else, you are a leader. Kadi says it’s also important to remember that we all have 100% influence over ourselves. So, self-leadership acts as a great foundation for becoming a strong leader, in general.

Simply getting up in the morning and following through with your goals are good first steps toward self-leadership. When you can be a strong influence on yourself, you can be a positive influence for others.

This is an idea that comes into play in the realm of parenting, as well. And parenting and leading a business have a lot in common. The goal of any parent is to raise a self-sufficient and independent adult. This is the same goal leaders have for their businesses.

It may take a lot of hands-on leadership to achieve your goals for your business, especially when directing new employees, but your influence will ultimately lead the members of your team to be able to self-manage.

If you haven’t read Kadi’s book, I really recommend doing so.

If you have any other questions or would like more information, feel free to give me a call or send me an email. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

Sticks and Stones May Break Your Bones, but Words Can Also Hurt You

Words can hurt. Here’s how you can make sure they won’t hurt you anymore.

When you were little, you probably heard the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.”

That’s a great idea and a good lesson for children to learn. However, I do think that what is said to you and about you matters. Why?

Whenever you hear something over and over again, negative or positive, it goes deep down into your subconscious and stays there.

If you have goals but you haven’t been able to achieve them, I challenge you to look at some of the negative messages that you’ve heard—or maybe even said—about yourself.

Then, create some powerful affirmations and write them in your journal. When you catch yourself saying “I can’t,” just know that you can, and you will.

What you listen to, what you hear, and who you surround yourself with matters, so pick wisely and find people to encourage and support you.

If you have any questions for me, I would love to talk to you more. Just give me a call or send me an email. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

What Are the 4 Steps to Finding Your Rhythm?

If you’re at a point in your life where you’re struggling to get things right, follow these four steps to help you work through it.

I want you to do me a favor. Think back to a time in your life where everything you did worked perfectly. It was easy, stress-free, and you couldn’t make a mistake.

Have you thought about that time? We’ve all had it.

Now, think about something different. Think about a time where you did all the right things but just couldn’t get anything to work. I know I’ve had those times, and I’m sure you’ve had them too.

I was recently at The Human Gathering, and one of the speakers there shared a great concept and I want to share with you today. His concept was that there are four steps to getting into a rhythm or flow:
  1. Struggle. You might be surprised at this. After all, who wants more struggle in their life? Actually though, it makes perfect sense. When most of us struggle, we respond by resisting it and pushing against it, which causes us to stay in this phase longer than we should. Instead of struggling, lean into the struggle and, as the speaker said, “struggle gracefully.”

  2. Relaxation. Many of us forget this step, but taking a few moments to yourself is a great thing to do.

  3. Flow (or rhythm). This is where the stress is gone and things start clicking and working.

  4. Recovery. Give yourself time to rest and relax.
If you think about this during your workout or exercise routine, it makes perfect sense, right? You’ll have a little bit of a struggle, a little relaxation time, the rhythm or flow (perhaps a “runner’s high” if you’re running), and then the recovery.

Instead of resisting the struggle and looking at it as a bad thing, understand that the good stuff is right around the corner. If you lean into it and get excited about it, it will leave you sooner so you can get to the good stuff.

Think about what you want to accomplish in the next week or two and apply these principles so you can get to the good stuff faster. Struggle isn’t a bad thing—it’s just step No. 1.

If you have any questions or would like to discuss this further with me, feel free to give me a call. I look forward to talking to you soon!