What Are the 4 Steps to Finding Your Rhythm?

If you’re at a point in your life where you’re struggling to get things right, follow these four steps to help you work through it.

I want you to do me a favor. Think back to a time in your life where everything you did worked perfectly. It was easy, stress-free, and you couldn’t make a mistake.

Have you thought about that time? We’ve all had it.

Now, think about something different. Think about a time where you did all the right things but just couldn’t get anything to work. I know I’ve had those times, and I’m sure you’ve had them too.

I was recently at The Human Gathering, and one of the speakers there shared a great concept and I want to share with you today. His concept was that there are four steps to getting into a rhythm or flow:
  1. Struggle. You might be surprised at this. After all, who wants more struggle in their life? Actually though, it makes perfect sense. When most of us struggle, we respond by resisting it and pushing against it, which causes us to stay in this phase longer than we should. Instead of struggling, lean into the struggle and, as the speaker said, “struggle gracefully.”

  2. Relaxation. Many of us forget this step, but taking a few moments to yourself is a great thing to do.

  3. Flow (or rhythm). This is where the stress is gone and things start clicking and working.

  4. Recovery. Give yourself time to rest and relax.
If you think about this during your workout or exercise routine, it makes perfect sense, right? You’ll have a little bit of a struggle, a little relaxation time, the rhythm or flow (perhaps a “runner’s high” if you’re running), and then the recovery.

Instead of resisting the struggle and looking at it as a bad thing, understand that the good stuff is right around the corner. If you lean into it and get excited about it, it will leave you sooner so you can get to the good stuff.

Think about what you want to accomplish in the next week or two and apply these principles so you can get to the good stuff faster. Struggle isn’t a bad thing—it’s just step No. 1.

If you have any questions or would like to discuss this further with me, feel free to give me a call. I look forward to talking to you soon!